Is there anything I can do in this situation with my aunt?
My aunt has been staying with us for the past couple weeks. For most of the time, she was on a road trip with my dad so it wasnt so bad, but now shes back, and my mom and i are at our wits end.
she considers herself a "Professional Organizer" and all-around know it all. Every time she stays with us, she takes it upon herself to try and "organize" our lives!
It started with the bathroom… where she "organized" my toothbrush into the garbage! then she got permission from my very easy-going teenage brother (who isnt home right now) to redo his room… she tore down all of his posers and records he had on his walls, smashed his lamp and put up posters she had brought! she has gone "shopping" with us to buy hundreds of dollars of "healthy food" and household products that we/she needs "right now" (and most of which we will never use)… and made my dad and mom pay for them all. she has gone through our closets and decided to donate countless items to the salvation army without our permission. she even told my sister that my room rightfully belongs to my sister now, since i am in college (we already have a deal worked out between us, because i still need my room)
we begged my dad to talk to her… she stopped the thing she was doing then ("organizing" all of our shoes and throwing most away) but just now started hauling everything out of the fridge to clean it… and broke our refrdigerator! she’s never tried to pay for anything or ask if it was okay to do this. we feel like this is completely out of line for a guest to do without permission, so my mom and i have taken to avoiding her… now shes told my mom she doesnt like me because i dont talk to her!
is there anything we can do? please help!
the worst part is, she thinks she is "doing us a favor"
but when my dad told her my mom wanted her to stop, my aunt acted all insulted and like my mom was the one being rude!
we cant really kick her out, she is like 65 and lives in hawaii, we live in ct, she has no where to go until she leaves…
This is EXACTLY what my sister does. It was a lot harder when I lived at my parents because unless they were fighting, I’d have to deal with her. I sTiLL have to deal with her once in awhile, but I leave and I keep my distance. This is hard because she’s family (your aunt). It’s up to your parents (both of them) to deal with her. She has no right to do ANY of those things, but your parents need to be a team and tell her NO. If she doesn’t listen, kick her out. Again, easier said than done. Good luck.
Y’all should charge her rent whenever she stays with you. But first get your money back.
Just be yourself. It doesn’t matter if it’s good enough for someone else.